Making Your Own Rules- The Journey Towards Self-Permission and Abundance

Have you ever found yourself begging the universe to send you a specific message or blessing? What about ignoring what you know deep down, all while patiently waiting for the outside validation to kick in? In my experience, sometimes the most profound blessings are really disguised as little whispers from the universe. But how can we be open to receiving those messages quicker and with more ease? 

In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-permission and how it can unlock the freedom we're all desperately searching for. I'm sharing how to break free from the "shoulds" and "musts" to embracing a life of true authenticity. And with that clarity, it really can open a new door to receiving more of those lessons, more of those messages, & more expansion than we thought was possible!

So lets ditch the outdated rules society has created for us and explore the idea of receiving MORE – more abundance, joy, opportunities, love, and whatever else our hearts desire. 

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Transcript

Lauren Best: 0:08

Welcome to provoking possibilities, where we reflect on pivotal life moments, ask thought-provoking questions and dream up new possibilities for living a life you love that may be a little out of your current reality. I'm Lauren Best, a certified hypnotherapist and provoker of possibility, and I've created this podcast for people who are curious about exploring new ways of living, who are looking to connect deeper with their bodies, their intuition, their hearts, and then known, and who are really ready to just embrace their most authentic selves, to move into flow and into alignment. There is just so much that is possible for us when we open ourselves up to exploring new possibilities beyond our wildest imagination. So if you're ready and curious to begin exploring new possibilities, join me every week for a new episode of provoking possibilities on Apple Podcasts, spotify or wherever you get your podcasts. Let's dive in.

Lauren Best: 1:09

I was talking to a friend yesterday and the topic of really being open or ready to receive came up and we were talking about how, in hindsight, things may have seemed very clear, but we aren't necessarily ready for them to sink in or to receive the message or the lesson to receive more, and it's with this notion that confirms that we can hear or see a message or a lesson over and over again, and if we're not ready to hear or see or acknowledge, it's just as good as running our heads through the wall with the writing all over it. We can always see with hindsight, this thing kept on coming up and I just really, why didn't I see it? It was right there the whole time. And with this friend, we were talking about how, once you've woken up a little bit and become more self-aware, you can begin to see some of these things a lot quicker. It can become even more clear once you see someone else a few steps behind you ignoring the same thing that you now see so clearly, or seeing that they don't even notice the writing on the wall. And it's funny because, having this conversation, I was thinking like, yeah, I've become so self-aware I'm so it's so easy for me to now notice this when it comes to the other people. This is showing me just how far I've come. And the funny thing about this, and just reflecting on this right now, is that I'm sure right now, in this moment, there are things where there's like spray paint mural on the wall, this message that's just like right in front of my face. That again, I'm maybe not even noticing yet. So it's not like it's something that really ever goes away. It's not like you can become so self-aware.

Lauren Best: 3:03

I mean, maybe for some people I'm thinking, for me it's just part of my human experience to go at my own pace, and for all of you as well, our pieces are going to be so, so different. But it's really because of those experiences of pulling yourself out of the hole in the wall that clarity can come, no matter where you are in your life or what new messages are being shared with you that you're not able to see yet. So, with that clarity, that whenever that comes, it can open a new door to really receiving more of those lessons, more of those messages, more expansion, just more in general. And it's because whenever those doors open, you're ready to receive these lessons, these things, these messages, these invitations, these gifts, whatever it may be. And for those who are hearing me talk about this and are thinking in their heads how will I know when I'm ready? I'm not sure we'll ever know when we're ready. There truly is no perfect timing or perfect place or perfect experience that will tell you that you're ready for it. Perhaps the perfect timing is always just going to come as it pleases, and we might not ever really be able to understand why or when or all of those things that we are always so curious about knowing, because we want to find the next best thing or level up, and maybe we just need to be a little more conscious of being in the moment and realizing what we have right in front of us, and that can also be a really great thing for being open to these things to show up, and time and time again I know I have been re-shown that the message I need to see most will show up at the perfect time, even if I've heard or seen it a million times before.

Lauren Best: 4:59

And in turn with this, it just warms my heart to receive such loving messages from many of you who have been listening or follow me on social media, that you've received a message or an email from me that truly, deeply resonates with where you are at in your lives. That, to me, is like I'm going through these things, I'm reflecting on these things in my own life and I know collectively, there's other people and that's why I'm sharing all these things with you, because we're all going through things in our own lives and there is just so much to share and we can share from our experiences and just really put ourselves out there in a way where we can create that connection or we can receive that message from connection. So keep those emails or messages coming to me, because it is so, so beautiful when you all share with me and just say that you can resonate or what you said really stood out to me and you posted this at the perfect timing and I want to share with you. With these responses that I have in receiving, I'm starting to notice for myself that the key is to really start with my own self-awareness, my own desires and, most importantly, an openness with the idea of receiving. So, as much as I'm sharing with all of you and I'm coming from a place of wanting to share and open my heart there's also this openness in my own self that just by sharing I can receive more and more.

Lauren Best: 6:35

When it comes to these lessons, the running on the wall, whatever it may be more abundance, I don't know, but on the flip side of this, if you've been feeling afraid to put yourself out there in a certain way, I was afraid for a long time to even get on a podcast like this or a radio show and just share what's been going on in my life. I don't know if I would have done that two years ago because I was afraid to put myself out there. In a certain way, I felt like what do I know? What am I an expert in? But the truth is I'm an expert in my own life and what I've been through, and that's enough. I've lived what I've lived, and if I can just keep sharing from experience and my own knowledge, then no one even though they can relate to different things no one's going to share quite like I do. And so I want to share with you.

Lauren Best: 7:29

If you've been feeling afraid to put yourself out there in a certain way to share your story or your gifts or your interests, because you think people have already heard the same message time and time again, or have created the same thing or have shared a similar story, like I, can promise you that the right people will be open to receiving what you have to share at the time that they need it most, when they are ready for it. And while this may sound more like an action of sharing, it still, in fact, is an action of being open and being open to receiving, because it is like an invitation you send out into the universe that comes back to you as a response from those it is meant to reach. And with that all in mind and it might be something different from what you've ever thought about before but with all that in mind my question to you is are you open to receiving more in your life, to receiving more happiness, more abundance, more alignment, more flow, more health and wealth, more support, more ease, more permission, more invitations, more surprises, more confidence, more boldness, more opportunities, more, more, more, whatever more means to you or whatever desires of more you have in your life. Whatever it is you are craving more of, whether you know what it is, consciously or not. It's just really crucial that you are really open to receive. And you know you might not feel that open right now, but just starting small and you know, putting yourself out there in the limelice of ways where you're sharing your gifts out into the universe to find, even if it's one person, who can receive it, you will also be opening yourself up to receiving more, whether that be from others or from the universe, or even from yourself. So don't worry about what it looks like to navigate this on your own. There are so many ways that you can just begin to explore and play and really show up in ways that might not be too different from what you're showing up with now, but can be just enough to be self-aware and to notice a little bit of writing on the wall, or create your own writing on the wall for someone else, whatever that may be. So I'm gonna leave you with those little thoughts for today, because it's something that's been on my mind and something I've been reflecting on, and I really hope this message will resonate with you. And they're whispers from my own soul, and I hope, with me sharing this, that you can find more whispers from your own soul too. Doesn't have to be writing on the wall all the time. It can be just a little whisper and that can be more than enough. ["the Star-Spangled Banner"].

Lauren Best: 10:35

Thank you so much for joining me on this journey of exploring new possibilities and embracing your most authentic self. I appreciate you and your willingness to open your mind and your heart to new ideas and ways of being that are beyond your current reality. So if you found value in this episode, please take a moment to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcast or wherever you listen to this podcast. Your support helps us to spread the message of compassion, self-discovery and personal growth to more people who may benefit from it. And if you're looking for additional support on your journey of self-discovery and transformation, I invite you to visit my website at lauren-bestcom, where you'll find resources, courses and coaching services to help you navigate life's challenges with more ease and joy and confidence and support. So please check that out. And, more than anything, I hope you'll remember that you're not alone on this journey. We are all in this together, and by embracing our most authentic selves we can create more compassion and connection to the world. So please keep dreaming, keep exploring and keep provoking possibilities with love and intuition. I'll be back soon with more thought-provoking questions, inspiring stories and powerful insights and conversations to support you on your journey, but until then, take care of yourself and others and remember that you are worthy of love and possibility.

Lauren Best: 12:06

There have been plenty of permission slips handed out to us over our lifetime, most of which we hadn't actually needed to ask or receive permission for in the first place, and often we mistake permission for something that is external to us, given to us by others, and in some instances we even present a question to someone other than ourselves with the hopes of receiving approval. Even in school, we were taught to ask teachers permission to go to the bathroom. Many of us have faced that expectation to ask permission to go home sick from work or if we're feeling unwell, and I could go on and on with examples that society has deemed as normal situations where receiving permission is necessary. But going on about this really isn't that important. What's important here is the impact that having to ask permission or being granted permission has had on our ability to show up as our authentic selves. What's important is that seeking permission outside of ourselves has caused us to suppress our emotions, and what's important is the obstacles that have been placed in our ability to confidently express and pursue our desires with love and safety.

Lauren Best: 13:16

When we give ourselves permission to do or be a way to others, we give away the most magical parts of ourselves. Why couldn't we be the ones to give ourselves approval? Why couldn't permission be presented as a statement followed by an action that we simply take because we feel like it? Why couldn't we make our own permission slips that truly support the life that we want to live? There's really no good reason why we couldn't when it comes down to it.

Lauren Best: 13:43

So let's uncover the permission slips that your soul has been waiting for, because permission slips are invitations to provoke possibility, which takes us on a path of disrupting perfection and living in flow. But how exactly can we do that? I want to invite you to join me and a small group of women to design your own version of what giving yourself more permission to be you, that look like, what it can feel like and what it has the potential to unlock within your life. Beyond waiting for the world and people around you, I've created a group coding program permission slips where you can join us to really explore and uncover these permission slips that are really going to allow you to speak your truth or move wild and free, or do less or do more, letting go of what doesn't serve you, receiving more love or embodying more of your intuitive goodness. Visit the link below or my website, loren-bestcom slash permission-slips to find out more.